by Todd Daigneault

Created on: November 23, 2009

If you seriously want to avoid divorce - remember how high the statistics are - listen to your spouse; don't drift apart. It's natural after sometime of marriage for couples to sometimes focus on other issues like children and career. Love is there, but it morphs somewhat. But drifting apart too much, with two extremely separate lives, can easily lead to divorce. Basically, if you are not showing nearly enough love and affection, separation and divorce cannot be that far away. As a married partner continues the process of shearing away the last bits of affection, it becomes evident that the marriage is just on life support. Saving your marriage can be as easy as a little preventive medication. It's understandable there are issues like children, work and money. But spend some quality time with your spouse, your partner.

Go out with your partner on a romantic trip somewhere at least several times a year for a little re-ignition. This does not necessarily include booking a trip to Hawaii, the Caribbean, or Europe. Sneaking away to some little romantic cabin, lovingly nestled in the mountains somewhere is very romantic. You can ski or fish together-or just nuzzle each other ever so lightly and lovingly like two deer-in front of a roaring fire can be so conducive to your relationship lasting, beating the odds and not ending up in divorce. In-between those trips, walking with your wife or husband's hand in yours, and not walking ten yards apart from each other is also very good to sustaining a marriage. This does not mean overcompensating for lack of love with lots of necking in public and deep screams and moans at night. What it does mean is showing your wife or husband that you are deeply in love with each other, as man and wife, even in a morphed and changed relationship.

After all, in the beginning, you saw each other across a crowded room and instantly knew that he/she was your soul mate. Don't necessarily let a marriage disintegrate, with boring, predictable sex with each other that is loveless, lifeless and bloodless. You don't want to sit there and exchange barbs and shots with each other. Sometimes a marriage has to end for whatever reason. But being a little loving, a little affectionate and thoughtful, without going overboard, can help extend marriage into a life-long thing. 'Starter marriages' and other divorces are becoming all too common in our society. A little work in maintaining the 'fire' may help extend the marriage into something that you'll both

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