by Jane Kay

Created on: November 23, 2009

I firmly believe in the existence of soul mates. I am also quite certain that finding your soul mate doesn't necessarily mean the relationship with your soul mate will work.

To me, a soul mate is the person that (allow me to borrow a term coined by "Jerry Maguire") completes you. It's not just about another person completing your life, though, as my life is pretty complete with or without a mate. It's about another person inexplicably filling a void you didn't even realize you had. It's about another person making you feel whole when you never felt less than whole. It's about meeting someone who finally enables you to exhale, to feel absolutely complete. It is all about your soul recognizing its other counterpart in another person.

Similar to Aristophanes' theory on soul mates, imagine yourself being created by whatever deity or process you choose, consisting of two parts that make a whole - a male half and a female half. At the end of the creation, the whole is split into two and released into the world or life as we know it, for whatever reason, living separate lives as man and woman.

If we came together in the beginning and grew up together, I think the soul mate theory would always work. Unfortunately, if and when two soul mates are lucky enough or fated to meet again in life, a substantial number of years have passed by, with the circumstances and environment having changed and affected who they end up being. While the core parts still fit beautifully, everything else stands a chance of not coming together symbiotically anymore.

When you meet a person who was your other half at creation, or your soul mate, the attraction, fit, desire, and familiarity you feel is astounding. Everything seems to match. What you have more of, he needs; what you lack in, he supplements. It's not just being in love, as you can feel this about many, but it's the inexplicable draw you feel to that person; it's the invisible connection and overwhelming compulsion to be around that person that is unique from any other relationship you will ever know. It's a deep-rooted sense that your aura has been aware of this person's existence for eternity.

Unfortunately, all of this says nothing about compatibility. As mentioned, the two people have had a lifetime apart, and have formed their own distinct personalities. Some have had bad lives, others have had privileged lives; bringing two different experiences together is not easy and in fact, not always doable.

The greatest tragedy in life,

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