by Aeryka Rae

Created on: November 22, 2009

For me, the silent destroyer in relationships has been unfulfilled expectations or hidden agendas.

Have you ever felt like the 'dumb person that just didn't get it'? Never mind that someone has told you they were in-love with you; that it was just 'you and them'. Never mind that you were told by your love that they 'found home when they found you'. I can go on and on in listing the 'in-love' phrases I've heard. Which ones have you heard?

How about those things they've done with you that they've done with no other? Yet, because you declined in being what they wanted you to be you no longer made them happy. Yes, you read right. How does one measure true love and happiness; by fulfilled expectations? God forbid.

Conditional love hurts. This is why Christ laid out His life the way He did. All of the persecutions He experienced, yet never ceased to love even His own people who persecuted Him. He set the example for the kind of love we should display towards one another; the kind of love He has for mankind...unconditional love.

All of our disgusting ways; all of our sins and transgressions are what He died for. Think about that for a moment; and, think about how little we exemplify that kind of love, and the love we do claim to possess.

If we are not exemplifying true love, we are manifesting confusion, rejection and death of yet another soul from our lives; the same torture Christ experienced before He went to the cross. We've persecuted one another, judged and killed one another's character; we've done all sorts of things to our fellow man simply because of all the things we lack in being in the image of God.

We should live in constant embarrassment for displaying such behavior before an all seeing God. We live as though we will live forever in this wretched state we're in; carrying it from one relationship to another; we live as though we have no other place to go beyond this life but six feet under.

How is it that we are not intimidated, or reverenced by this type of Supervision that we're constantly under given the fact that we have the greatest book ever written for guidelines to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness?

For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?-Mark 8:36

If we cannot be who we are and grow in a relationship maybe we weren't meant to be in that particular one.

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