by C.K. Matthews

Created on: November 21, 2009

There is an old saying used mostly by men who feel rejected, "Nice guys finish last." The reality of the situation is that the "nice guy" who is feeling rejected lacked in other areas that are equally important as being nice. Seriously, if a nice guy was "all that" why would he be rejected?

"Nice guys" and "Bad boys are terms separated by descriptions such as the "nice guy" being dependable, trust worthy, sweet, considerate but boring. The "bad boy" is described as being intoxicating, exuberant, wildly fun but not trustworthy.

There is no doubt that women are attracted to the sex appeal that is typically found in the "bad boy" persona. Once the peak of arousal has been obtained however is another story. Reality sets in and women realizes that something is not right. The same is true with women who meet the "nice guy." A women is attracted to the "nice guy" because he is sensitive, sweet, seemingly caring, and honest. It doesn't take long to realize there is something missing.

Each has qualities that attract women but without a balance the relationship is not likely to last. So what do women really want? Women want a healthy balance of qualities found in the "nice guy" and the "bad boy."

Confidence: There can be a fine line between confidence and cockiness. Confidence is seldom found in the stereotypical "nice guy" whereas it is found in abundance with most "bad boys." Confidence is a feeling of being secure with ones abilities. This does not mean confident men do not experience fear or self-doubt but they are realistic about their abilities and honest when it comes to something they are not familiar with.

Intelligence - or at least a reasonable sense of what is right and wrong. While its ok to party till the bar closes it is not ok when a woman has to carry her man home because he doesn't have common sense enough to know how much is enough.

Interested: Women want men who are genuinely interested in her mind, body and soul - not just her body. Women want men who care about her desires and needs because they truly care about her not just so they can get what they want. It eventually becomes evident when a man only seems to care about his women long enough to get what he wants. While it is normal that men and women will have different interest it does not mean that each can't show interest in the other person's interest to at least some degree.

Not controlling: Men - this does not mean you should let your woman walk all over you. Have enough backbone to know when

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