by Joshua K. Bradshaw

Created on: November 19, 2009   Last Updated: November 20, 2009

Improper pride to me is an excessive amount of self-confidence, akin to arrogance. Self-confidence on a balanced level is a good thing, but improper pride is not . We need a certain degree of healthy self-confidence and self-worth to be successful in any endeavor. With pride, however, comes a superiority complex. Do you know of anyone who appreciates the company of a braggart? Maybe other braggarts but probably no one else would say yes. Therefore, we do well to consider how our demeanor and speech come off to others.

Nobody likes know-it alls

I have no problem with people who are smarter and/or better educated than I am. I do have a problem with those who scorn others because of having less education. Some people's parents had a lot more involvement in their upbringing than mine did. I'm not blaming my parents but stating that people shouldn't judge me or others when they don't know our personal circumstances.

Physical prowess, celebrity stardom not an excuse for pride

Just as academic brilliance does not justify arrogance, neither does athletic skill or acting or singing talent. Yet, so many celebrities and athletes get so wrapped up in their greatness that they acquire awful personality traits. They think they can get away with more criminal behavior than the average person. Unfortunately, this is often true. They also feel entitled to treat others rudely and have their way all the time.

Pride contrasted with humility

While few people appreciate arrogance, most would say they find humility a positive quality. I certainly appreciate humble people who treat others with respect. What would you prefer, someone who pointed out all your faults and belittled you or someone who encouraged and commended you? Proud people have a greater tendency to look down on those who aren't as gifted as they are in a particular area (sports, academics, music, etc). I admit I don't have much reason to be proud as I excelled in few of those areas.

On a positive note, I know people who are highly intelligent, athletically gifted, or musically talented who don't advertise it to everyone they meet. I have more respect for them because they don't let their gifts go to their heads. That unfortunately is a common human flaw we all have to guard against.

Say 'yes' to confidence, 'yes' to self worth, but draw the line at arrogance.

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