by Umme Adil Nawaz

Created on: November 19, 2009   Last Updated: November 22, 2009

TAKE CARE OF YOUR HOME

Sometimes there are differences between family members but if we are not careful then these minor differences can become issues which then lead to a lot of resentment and anger... even hatred. The best thing that the devil loves to do is to break your relationships so that when you are totally cut off from love and support of family and friends then he can easily take you far away from Allah and His love and obedience.

It is so easy to get depressed and hopeless when your loved ones start making life difficult for you but obviously getting depressed is not a solution. So what should you do if things have got messed up and you feel alone and helpless? This has become such a common thing nowadays that I thought of listing down some practical steps to help you take care of problems at home

1- Before saying anything to a difficult person at home, pray two rakah and "talk" to Allah. Recall your sins and ask for forgiveness.

2- Pray to Allah that He should open your heart towards whoever is being unjust or unkind to you. Ask Allah to heal your heart and fill it with a loving and kind forgiveness for whatever they have done to you so far. Ask Allah to wash off all the grudges because unless your own heart is clear, your good words or actions will have no effect at all.

3- Do all the lawful things which make them happy.... cook their favorite foods... buy them favorite things... wear their favorite clothes... keep the environment free from things they dislike. Don't provide any spark for the devil to start his job. His biggest success is in breaking your relationships....and keep praying to Allah that He may protect you from the whispers of shaitan who will make you think of negative things like "you are never going to succeed with this person" He can never be happy... he hates you... he has never done anything for you so why are you being a slave to his desires. He does not deserve this kindness and so on and so forth.

Remember that your fight is against Shaitan and not your loved ones. They seem to be making life hell for you and showing hatred, anger or other negative behavior which of course is very painful to bear. But it will become easy if you continue to remind yourself that they are only following the whispers of the devil. They really love you but have become helpless because of their own weakness against the shaitan. They think that they are expressing their own emotions but the fact is that they are just acting on impulse and the

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