by Ooreofeoluwa Kalejaiye

Created on: November 15, 2009

EX-LOVERS should definitely not be friends, there's a reason why they were lovers in the first place. Granted, there's also a reason why they aren't together anymore but we've been created as beings that have the ability to retain memories of practically every important event that has ever taken place in our lives. Experiences, good or bad, tend to remain a part of us, long after they have occurred. Why would a constant reminder of what has been, ever be a positive thing to have in a person's life? Life is about moving forward, Paul said in Philippians 3:13, No, dear brothers and sisters, I am still not all I should be, but I am focusing all my energies on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead. As we know, the bible should always be our standards and if it has said let go of the past, for Pete's sake what's the point of holding on?

The likelihood of a completely platonic relationship between ex-lovers is very rare though not impossible because like I said earlier, there is a reason both people were lovers in the first place. Just because two people are not in a relationship anymore does not necessarily mean that the basic nature of who those people are has changed. You dated a boy and one of the things that drew you to him was his sense of humor, that you are no longer dating him does not mean that you're immune to his humor. The more you spend time with him, the more you're exposed to that humorous charm.

Also, ex-lovers would probably have been friends at some point. It's easier to confide in an old friend with whom much has been shared than with anyone else. Take for instance something really big happens in your life, chances are if you still have your ex in your life a as a friend, you'll pick up the phone and call him up to let him know the good news. When experiences such as those are shared, they have a way of bringing people deeper and closer together, even in normal everyday friendships. Take for instance, a tragedy, someone who is not in a relationship would call the person they feel can comfort them the best. For people who have their ex-lovers in their lives, he/she would be their first choice. It is true that there are other friends one can call in such cases but when tragedy strikes, there is this inner longing for love and who else, if not an ex-lover, can satisfy that want.

Furthermore, lovers who have bad break-ups are less inclined to be friends with their ex-lovers but in rare occasions of such occurrence,

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