by Cynthia Springsteen

Created on: November 15, 2009   Last Updated: November 16, 2009

My Best Friend My Ex and Now My Husband

Can your ex be your best friend? I am living proof that your ex can be your best friend, an ex at times and also your husband.

I met my husband when I was 14 years old. We were each other's first love. As teenagers, there is too much world to explore. We loved each other, but would constantly fight and break up. He would get a new girlfriend, me a new boyfriend. This would go on for years and even though we weren't together, somehow we could not stay apart. We wound up going to each other for everything, including advice about our other relationships. We would also sit and talk for hours.

After you have been together for so long and journey into being an ex, it is not easy to transform immediately to being a friend. Yet, you share so much as a couple and when the pressure of being a couple is gone and you are left with just your memories, there is a way to turn that into a friendship like no other you can imagine.

After being married for six years, my husband and I separated. In the beginning we were very angry and really did not talk very much. Over time, we just could not stay away from each other. We wound up talking for hours and hours on the phone, talking in a way when we were together we just could not do. Eventually, we would get together for dinners, concerts and other things we wanted to do with our children. We were not at the time ready to be husband and wife yet, but we instead became best friends, once again.

By being together at such a young age and experiencing all that there is with each other, we were able to form a unique bond that would turn out to be a once-in-a-lifetime love for us. For some, this may just turn out to be the best friend of a lifetime, for me, there is no one else I would imagine being by my side, as I grow older than my best friend, who is also my husband. There is no one else I feel comfortable enough to turn to when the world doesn't seem to be too kind. Our separation showed us by going back to best friends we were able to finally mend our ways and reunite.

Our road has been very long, it took a lot of time and work to be where we are now. We have been to the bottoms of the earth and we have climbed to the top of the world. Our experiences of being an ex, best friend and husband/wife have shaped our future for a lifetime.

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