by Audrey Busciglio

Created on: November 14, 2009   Last Updated: November 16, 2009

Forgiveness is a powerful word that can change a person's life for the better. Having the ability to forgive is within the reach of most human beings. Arriving at the point where one can forgive another for past transgressions is a process that has no real time table, and varies from individual to individual. At some point a good majority of people will be on both ends of the forgiveness battle; the people who need to forgive and those who need to be forgiven.

Arriving at the point one can forgive another can be a daunting experience. The hurt one is feeling overwhelmed, and is upset with the family member, or friend, that caused this feeling. In any relationship trust needs to be earned, and it takes time to develop, and grow. When this trust is violated, and abused, the relationship becomes strained, and difficult to maintain. The person who has been hurt becomes resentful, and may detach themselves from the individual that caused them emotional pain. Forgiveness is hard to consider at this point, but as times moves on dealing with the situation head on can lead to a happy outcome. It is important to remember that everyone makes mistakes, and at some point people may hurt another emotionally. It is not unusual to forgive a loved one for their wrong doing. The person who needs to be the forgiver can one day be the one needing to be forgiven.

Human beings experience a multitude of emotions. People need to feel loved, and feel good about themselves in order to function in society. The positive force that is present in one's life will have a good affect on those they come in contact with. Resentment and anger impedes the body from positivity. The negativity that those two emotions bring on will be a detriment to the person feeling it, and from those who are part of their lives. It takes more work to be angry than it does to be forgiving. The body becomes tense and uncomfortable when hostility is present. When a person chooses to forgive they help themselves become better individuals. They lift a giant burden of pain, and anger off their shoulders, and can face the challenges of life in a more positive way.

Forgiveness also brings with it a sense that people are not perfect beings. They need the understanding of the people around them to put that into perspective. People sometimes need a second chance, and will see that hurting another is not going to be good for anyone. People need to trust again, and start over from the unfortunate incident of hurt feelings. Moving on and forgiving puts the past where it should be, and keeps the present, and future open to the best possible outcome. Hostility can bring anyone down, and not letting go of that feeling will negatively affect other relationships.

Forgiveness is a powerful word with a powerful outcome. Human beings need to forgive each other for wrong doings to assure the fact that life can go on with the positive emotions that will lead to happiness, and fulfillment. Love and understanding will help forgiveness to occur. When people love each other, and value the other person they will make room in their heart for forgiveness. Holding on to the past with hurt emotions will in turn cause that person undo pain, and suffering. Everyone is capable of forgiving. The amount of time that is needed will vary from situation to situation, and individual to individual. Forgiving can be a cathartic experience for the one who is in need of forgiveness, and the person making it possible, the forgiver.

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