by Cindy Whittington

Created on: November 14, 2009   Last Updated: November 22, 2009

Can you forgive your partner for forgetting Valentine's Day? My answer is a resounding yes. There is no doubt in my mind that my spouse loves me. I do not need the stuffed animals, candy, and flowers that are typically gifted on Valentine's Day for me to know that I am loved. Valentine's Day is the holiday where one is supposed to show their significant other how much they love and care for them with the purchasing of nice, sensual gifts. Some spouses even recruit the babysitters so mom can get all dolled up for an elaborate dinner date with dad. Do not get me wrong, I am not against the holiday. I actually like the idea of a romantic holiday. I just simply have no problem forgiving my spouse should he happen to forget the occasion. Now, if our wedding anniversary had coincided on the same day and he forgot, well that might be a different story. Actually, in all honesty, I might be disappointed if he forgot our anniversary, but I would definitely forgive him.

My husband proves to me every day how much he loves me. He expresses his love not only in his words but also in his actions. Each day, he goes to work and provides for his family. He has taken on the sole burden of provider so that I may realize my dream of staying home with my children. At times, I know it is a heavy burden for him to bear, especially with the economy as it is, but he never complains. He phones home periodically throughout the day just so he may hear my voice and the voice of his children. At the end of the day, he comes home and hugs and kisses all of his family. Even after work, he does extra little nice things to make me feel special and loved. Who could fault that? I could go on and on but I digress.

In my opinion, why should forgetting the commercialized aspect of Valentine's Day not be forgivable? It is simply a trivial matter, especially considering the fact that most partners show their significant other how much they care on a daily basis. When one's spouse or partner forgets this romantic holiday, one should ask themselves a few simple questions. Number one: Does he or she truly love me? If your answer is yes, then that should far outweigh your partner's slight memory lapse. Number two: Am I upset because I truly believe he forgot me or am I upset because I did not get anything? Make sure you answer honestly. If your honest answer is yes, do not feel guilty and definitely do not feel alone. Most people feel disappointed when they do not receive something special on Valentine's

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