by Jane Vee

Created on: November 13, 2009

In order to establish effective discipline for tweens, you need to set up effective punishments as well as rewards. This article deals with effective rewards for tweens.

One of the major mistakes parents make, is they don't set goals for their children or they don't have their children set goals. Goals could be something as simple as doing a chore, but most parents don't expect their child to complete the task.

Some parents reward chores with an allowance. If you don't have money to reward chores with an allowance or you believe your child should be doing a chore without expecting money, these disciplining rewards for tweens may be what your household needs to utilize for accomplishments.

If you sat down with your tween and made a list of rules and boundaries, along with a list of punishments you may want to sit down with your tween again and make a list of goals and rewards.

Goals for your tween should include a good report card (not perfect, but good). As long as your tween is trying the best he or she can, the report card should be rewarded. Some children have problems learning and this may be the case for your child. If so, you don't want to make them feel bad by not rewarding their effort. They may already know they can't be an A student, so if you don't reward the effort, they may stop trying their best.

Another goal would be to have their room cleaned once a week. The reward for this goal should be given every time the room is cleaned. You may even have them clean other parts of the house, wash dishes or even just wash windows. These acts will need to be rewarded.

Once you and your tween have agreed on and written the list of goals, you will add a list of rewards. Make sure that on the bottom of the list you write that the parent will have the final say in what rewards will be given at the time of the goal. You and your tween will sign the goal and reward list.

Rewards for your tween should be items or activities they would like. You will have to discuss with your tween what he or she would be willing to accept as a reward and write the list of rewards.

Rewards for tweens:

Dinner out - Give your tween the option of eating out as a family for his or her reward. Let it be the restaurant of your tween's choice. After all the reward was for your tween.

Movie - If you don't want to go out to the movies, let your tween pick a movie that you can watch at home. The movie will be for him or her so make it a special event with pizza and popcorn.

Mall - Most tweens

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