by Charlene C

Created on: November 10, 2009

Finding out your partner cheated on you can have a devastating affect on your life. This act of betrayal often engulfs you and you become physically and emotionally ill. Depression, anger, and even vengeful are some of the common feelings you experience after such deceit and hurt comes into your life. Hatred seeps in and in the beginning you may feel that the traitorous act of cheating is simply unforgivable. It's a sin that conjures up some of the meanest feeling you may feel in your life. Is this sin ever forgivable?

Yes, cheating is a forgivable sin. Men and women all over the world forgive every day. How can someone forgive such an act? Why would anyone forgive such an act? People forgive because they want to move on with their lives. To refuse to forgive someone who has wronged you holds onto the painful feelings that the act of cheating has caused. To forgive is to regain freedom to love again, whether that is loving someone else or the person that you forgave.

Forgiving someone for cheating is not saying that you are going to forget it. Unless become afflicted with a case of amnesia, it is impossible to forget such a thing. A betrayal like cheating cuts so deep that it is seeded too far into your mind to be removed. Anything that you come into contact with while you are feeling so betrayed and miserable you will associate with the cheating act. Therefore, you will never forget.

Why your partner cheated and the circumstances surrounding the cheating also has a great deal to do with forgiving. Was it a one night fling? Was it an ongoing emotional as well as physical affair? Was it a stranger or someone you knew? The answer to these questions are used to judge just how serious this affair was and is it something that may happen again. All of these things places the betrayal on certain levels. A one night affair with a stranger can sometimes be easier to forgive than an ongoing emotional affair with someone that is close to you and your partner.

It is human nature to forgive such acts because otherwise you will become bitter and angry which makes it impossible for your other relationships to thrive. To achieve healthy, honest relationships after you have been cheated on, you need to let go of all the negative feeling the betrayal caused so that you can move on. This is why cheating is a forgivable sin.

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