by RichaArora

Created on: November 10, 2009   Last Updated: November 11, 2009

I don't judge anyone! Now that's an outright lie, you'd say. It is just so tough not to judge when meeting someone for the first time. If you don't judge the person's appearance, you'd most certainly be judging their motives. If not that, perhaps the manners will compel you to form an opinion. No matter how hard may you try, you will never be able to control your natural instinct for judgment.

I'd not say there's nobody who can be called non-judgmental. There are many who have controlled their senses enough to train their brains not to signal opinions. But then I'd say that is an art - an acquired art. I'd rather say they don't show it on their faces nor don't let opinions (which they do form) affect their relationships.

That is what an ideal thing to do is! Nobody is perfect. God never created a human masterpiece! What right or courage do we possess to analyze or comment on other's beliefs, talents, values or personalities? We too are imperfect in our own ways. Then why judge? Live and let live and make this world a happier place to live in.

Even if you are lured into forming opinions, let them be strictly personal. Commenting, gossiping though is pleasurable to a great extent, is never ethical. Imagine how you would feel if someone talked negative about you behind your back. It hurts and hurts badly!

The person you just commented on or formed an opinion of may have a hundred other talents unknown to you. Imagine if those surfaced, how respected would you be in your own eyes? Judement is seldom sane and often is a momentary decision.

Now I don't say judgment is always negative, it can be extremely positive too. But whatever the case be, let it be based on years of togetherness and understanding rather than basing those on a couple of hours spent together.

I wonder how judges sitting in courtrooms pass their judgments right minutes after listening to the plaintiff and the defendants. For me, it is so tough. Everyone is special and should be respected and accepted for what they are. Forming opinions about them or judging them only belittles their abilities and talents. Same stands true for you as an individual too.

Let opinions be the opinions of the heart and let them be there. Judge, but judge wisely is what I'd say is the best idea.

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