by RichaArora

Created on: November 09, 2009   Last Updated: November 12, 2009

Yes! You should always stay married. Problems are and were created by you, and your personalities and egos. Where is the child at fault? Why should she miss the love and care of both parents together? If you can't stay together, don't talk!. But be WITH your child! She needs BOTH; Mom and Dad together under a roof always!

She wants the warmth of mom's cuddle and the adventure of playing with her dad. She needs to learn the value of relationships; assurance that you care for her no matter how harsh your personal feelings may be for each other, she will always be special. and you will never deprive her of your love no matter what. That is your responsibility and she deserves that. She is a proof that you once loved each other more than your lives, even if it was for some time. Love did exist! And can easily be revived, only of you really want to.

Most of the times, adjustment problems are self-created. And, most people regret losing to that moment, when they could have easily managed it better. The mantra is to maintain silence. If one person raises the voice, other simply remains a passive listener.

By doing this not only will you teach your child how to control anger, but also suggest the importance of family relationships.

Family relationships matter much more than egos and selfish desires. By respecting and valuing the importance of your relationship with your spouse will help your child blossom into a more tolerant, adjusting and a responsible person. He will also learn the importance of sacrificing personal interests for a much superior outcome - love and togetherness.

Love is not about getting your expectations met. It is about acceptance, accepting people as they are - with their flaws. Arguments can be taken care of at a later moment in life, but, relations once gone, can be hard to repair.

There's still hope if you are under a single roof. You will still be with each other, seeing each other, feeling each other's presence, seeing and cherishing the bond of parenthood and above all you will be a family. Staying together for your child can even work wonders for your relationship as well. Even if it is for your child, you will begin accepting, receiveing positivity from all sides. You will realize that most problems are only momentary and pass off too. You can again begin afresh and look towards making the most out of your life than grieve over your losses after separation. You will still have a chance to bring love back into your life. And, it will be easier when both work positively towards a common goal - your child. Remember, love always begets love. It is when you love selflessly that you will realize how beautiful it is to love and be loved.

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