by C.K. Matthews

Created on: November 09, 2009

Sin is a term used in religious views and in this view the Bible states that there is only one unforgivable sin and it is not cheating. With the exception of this one unforgivable sin all sin is equal and forgivable (according to the Bible). Even if you do not look at this from a religious point-of-view cheating is just another human mistake and let those who do not make mistakes cast the first stone. I don't see anyone throwing stones?

We must also ask ourselves why does one cheat? Are we dissatisfied with the relationship? Were we drunk? Did our spouse hurt our feelings? For as many people as there are cheating there are as many reasons one may cheat. Is it ok to cheat? No but neither is it ok to lie, be selfish, or be late for dinner (just kidding). Seriously, we all make mistakes in our relationships and cheating is usually one that is made after many others have already been made that weren't dealt with effectively. So why not forgive the cheater?

Many cheaters feel as if their partner had cheated them first maybe not by having sex with someone else but by other actions including but not limited to not being open with them in communication, by sharing more of their time with others and not at home, by turning to someone else in a time of need (as a friend), by not giving of themselves in the bedroom, or simply by lying.

Typical marriage vows include honor, cherish, and devotion. In most cheating cases one or all of these have already been violated and the cheater chose the wrong avenue in which to express his or her feelings.

When the person being cheated on can look at his or her own mistakes in the relationship honestly one can see how easily one should forgive the cheater. It is only when we are not honest about our own mistakes that we cannot forgive another for theirs. As long as a couple is honest and continues forward in learning how to better communicate their concerns and needs their relationship can survive cheating. Since the word sin is a religious term let's go back to the religious point-of-view as there are many references regarding forgiveness but the following tells us that if we do not forgive, we will not be forgiven For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."
(Matthew 6:14,15)

Now, let's not kid ourselves there are those instances where men and women are just out there to play a person for all they are worth. Should these people be forgiven? That depends on your religious and moral points of views. Either way these people are sick whether it be spiritually or mentally and the person being played should move on and out as soon as possible.

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