by Jo Anne-Patricia Piccarillo

Created on: November 08, 2009

It always did amaze me how the simple act of flirting, which usually starts a relationship, could just as easily end one. But does it have to? Like anything else in this world, even the act of flirting could maintain the balance of any relationship if viewed in the right perspective and used with the just intentions.

Flirting is an act of our human nature and under normal circumstances, occurs subconsciously. Our eyes see something which attracts us, leaving our mind and body language to react accordingly. Such a simple act could hold the power to alter even our most vial mood, if we allow it to. Take yourself out of the relationship for a moment. You are now a single entity, waiting on line at the supermarket thinking about the days events thus far. Today, your hair didn't come out as sleek as usual, you're not too thrilled about the outfit you have on and/or you're just having one of those days where without warrant, you just don't feel beautiful. Now, despite the reason, the stranger standing behind you strikes up a conversation and happens to mention what beautiful eyes you have. Suddenly, you don't seem to notice what outfit you are wearing, your frizzy hair doesn't seem to matter as much and you find yourself standing on the same line with a smile. Compliments are a form of flirting. Flirting can only cause as much damage as you allow it.

Now granted, not everyone has the same intentions when they flirt. However if you are in a relationship, a line of trust should have already been established. The world is not going to stop being attractive just because you are now in a relationship. Your partner is not going to be the only person that you are attracted to. Though they do remain the reason that you now have to balance your human nature and your self control.

I've learned that despite how great it would be in a perfect world, in the realm of reality which we live in, it is utterly impossible for one person to be everything another needs. We need to embrace the power of flirting with others without abusing it. Flirting is not just an act for the single population.

If you awoke on that same day as a married woman laying next to your husband who, like any man, is not as in touch with his emotions as you are. Maybe he doesn't verbally express to you how beautiful he thinks you are, as often as you would like to hear it. That doesn't mean he doesn't believe you are beautiful, but it doesn't make you feel any more secure at the same time. Now you're off to

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