by Cindy Whittington

Created on: November 06, 2009   Last Updated: November 07, 2009

The first thing we as human beings generally note about one another is physical appearance. When we initially start dating our future spouses, we typically are drawn to their physical presence first. As young ladies and young men, we are attracted to certain "types". I always preferred the dark-haired, blue-eyed, athletic type. A nice set of abdominals never hurt anyone at least not from a physical perspective! One other trait I always seemed to admire was a nice smile that is reflected in another's eyes. I could go weak in the knees if someone had the right smile.

I met my husband in 1995. I was seventeen-years-old and he was twenty-one. He was and still is a good-looking man.As aforementioned, physical presence was what initially drew us together. There is so much more to him than just physical appearance. The most important quality, I believe, my spouse possesses is his love for Christ. He and I both are Christians and we strive to put God first in all things. Our common belief is that when God is first in our lives everything else will fall into its proper place.

My spouse is my best friend, not in terms of us doing everything together, but in terms of knowing and understanding one another. He enjoys turkey hunting and I simply do not. Hunting is just not my forte nor are some of the activities I enjoy doing his idea of fun. We simply enjoy one another's company. We may sit together for periods of time in complete silence. However, it is not a silence provoked by anger or resentment. It is a common familiarity which exists between us. A loving, peaceable silence which exists only between people who love and truly know one another. It is the type of companionship people long for most as they grow older. We mostly know what the other is thinking. We enjoy fishing, talking, playing with our children, and building on our house together. He knows me better than anyone else. He knows when I am upset and does not push me to talk about what is bothering me. He waits patiently for me to reveal to him what is on my mind.

For the first time in my life, I feel comfortable crying in front of another person. I am at ease with letting my guard down with my spouse. I have never been one to let my emotions show with others, but with him I am comfortable expressing my feelings. No matter how saddened or upset I am, he simply puts his arms around me and holds on tight. I can feel his love for me in his kind and tender embrace. When I was recently saddened about a recent event,

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