by Trista Mckinnis

Created on: November 04, 2009   Last Updated: November 05, 2009

Every couple starts out their life together never looking at the end before the beginning starts. We always look at our engagement, wedding, honeymoon, and then the hard steps of the marriage start. Your house payments, how many kids you want, where will they got to school. Who is going to stay home with them. At the point where you are a two children into your marriage, buried deep in your mortgage two cars and activities you start to question your life. Every person has to grow, change, and move forward. We start to wonder if there is more out there or this is it.

When two couples start to move apart rather than together because we are so busy with life we have forgotten we still need a good communication with our spouse. Kids start to notice that your spending as much time together, the laughter is gone, and they start worrying that the home life isn't what it used to be. Kids can see and feel more things than we do as parents, they notice the more minute things such as lack of affection, arguing, stress on jobs, bills, or infidelity.

What we forget is that how we maintain a relationship with out spouse or significant other is how they will be with there spouse, we are teaching them my doing. No parent should stay together if we are teaching our kids that infidelity is alright, yelling, screaming, arguing, not showing affection.

If we wanted our kids to have more than what we had when we were younger, then we should be teaching them how to be true to themselves. And that we have the right to be loved, cherished, treated as equals, and that a good relationship is one that lasts a lifetime. Teach them how to communicate with their spouse, show them the tools necessary to work through all of those touch times, and that most of all with love, trust, and communication it can stand anything that world has to throw at them.

If we stay in a relationship just so they have two miserable parents underneath one roof, instead of showing them that being apart and finding that special someone that brings out the good in you instead of the bad. We have a better chance of our children finding that relationship and staying married, otherwise we have just taught them to stay in an abusive situation with no love, trust, or communication.

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