by Leslie Trotter

Created on: November 03, 2009

Should parents expect their married children to help them financially

This all depends on the relationship parents have with their children. If children know that their parents were always there for them, loving them unconditionally and taking care of them, they may not have a problem helping their parents financially. Parents normally don't feel as though their children should be obligated to take care of them. However, some parents might feel that their children owe them. Children don't owe their parents, it is by privilege that a parent benefits from a child who want to help them in any way they can.

Your married children's first priority is with taking care of their own spouses and children. Because your child loves you unconditionally, he or she will not want to see their parent somewhere struggling financially, if that child is financially able to help their parent, it's done without any hesitation.

It isn't a good attitude to have, that you nearly died in childbirth, now your child owes you everything. That is not a natural attitude of a loving parent. Some parents would rather suffer than ask their children for help. Don't underestimate your children's love for you. If you need help and you know your children will help you, reach out to them, they will most likely be happy to help you, depending on the type of relationship they share with you. Perhaps, make it a loan from your children and pay them back when you're able to.

If your child turn you down and choose not to help you financially, there is a dysfunction in your relationship with your child or it could be that your child is selfish or unable to help you. Whatever the reason is, don't feel as though you're owed something from your child. Have a heart to heart talk with your children about your situation, let them know that you desperately need the help and that you will pay them back, I can't see a loving child not wanting to help loving parents, it's hardly unheard of.

Personally, I could never think of turning my parents down to help them financially if they needed it and I was able to help them. I don't feel as though they owe me nor do I think they would feel as though I owe them. Most parents are there for their children and automatically most children are there for their parents and It's a blessing to have a family unit like that.

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