by Hollywood James

Created on: November 03, 2009

One of the biggest heartbreaking moments during a relationship is finding out that your partner has been or is cheating on you. At the moment you find out, you experience a multitude of different emotions, the strongest being sadness and anger which is soon followed by disgust, detest, and hate. In extreme cases, some people who were cheated on feel shame and guilt asking themselves, "What did I do wrong?" when the real question should be, "What did I do to deserve this?" Because the reality is that NOBODY deserves to be cheated on. People should have the decency to just end the relationship before going ahead and testing the waters with someone new. Cheating on your partner is a gutless and selfish act that proves you lack integrity and character. If you don't want to be in the relationship anymore, at least have the courtesy and respect to just end it, yes, that hurts too, but at least you don't leave the other person feeling degraded and violated.

There's no excuse for cheating - NONE. Saying, "it was a mistake," "I had too much to drink," "it just happened," "there was nothing I could do," " we only did it once" are statements that don't cover up the real truth which is - "I wanted to do it and I chose not to stop myself." You control your own actions.

So wouldn't it be nice if you could tell in advance if your partner is cheating on you?

First, watch for changes in their behavior. A tell-tale sign you're being cheated on is when your partner starts changing the way they look. Their clothes, hair, weight, makeup and basically anything that improves their personal hygiene...anything that makes them look more attractive. And be especially wary of this when they do it before they go out by themselves. This includes when they go to work. Keep an eye out for any deviation from their normal routine. Also, make a mental note to yourself if they start bathing or showering more frequently.

Next, watch their behavior when the two of you are alone together. Do they separate themselves from you? Do they make eye contact with you when you're talking? Do they sit away from you seeming distant and thinking about something else?

The next one is pretty obvious - phone calls or text messages. Nowadays with all the modern technology, it's become rather easy to communicate in secrecy, so be wary if you can't find their cell phone or they refuse to let you use it. If they constantly have it in their possession chances are they're hiding something or waiting for a call or message.

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