by Carmel Brulez

Created on: November 03, 2009   Last Updated: November 04, 2009

Being a better wife; better than who? All wives will have faults, as perfection can lead to boredom and predictability. Someone who is always perfect is flawed by that itself. If we do not have some bad days as well as many good days, we never appreciate the good days. We would also have to question whether or not that partner is genuine in their actions and words and it is a very rare person who is totally selfless and always agrees with us. Surely it is better that sometimes we disagree with them and they put their needs first, if only to show us that they are human and not stupid?

Being a better wife must mean being a wife that pleases her husband. A wife can please her husband by thinking of all of his needs, whether they be emotional, mental, sexual, physical or financial, and putting the husband's needs before her own (though I would have to question her sanity if she was always putting her husband's needs before her own.) Why choose to always please someone unless they are trying equally hard to please you? For one thing, it is fair and just that you please your husband, seeing as he married you, but there again he should be pleasing you just as much. If one is always trying to do the pleasing the other is always simply enjoying things, taking them for granted and using you. Sometimes it is not wise to please a partner, certainly not if they are expecting too much of you.

A good wife is someone who realises she has to please her husband in many ways. She would be loving and caring without being clingy, needy, possessive or suspicious and always wanting to be with her man, especially when the reason she wants to be with him is to watch him like a hawk to make sure he is not chatting up other women. Good wives trust their husbands and believe him when he says where he is going and what he is doing. A good wife fancies her husband and enjoys having sex with him, she is not hoping that she can go a week or more without bothering to satisfy him, nor just putting up with the sex because she feels she has to to please him. She should be as enthusiastic about it as he is in regard to how often and what they do. A good wife is faithful to her husband.

She also tries to help with practical things such as nursing her husband when he is sick, sewing a button onto his jumper when it falls off, cooking him his favourite meals, letting him watch his favourite film if he has been working hard all day. She listens to him when he has problems at work or with his family, she praises him when he needs a boost of confidence or encouragement, she supports him when he is going through a crisis.

She is his best friend, someone he loves to spend time with. Someone to laugh with and cry with. She makes him feel as if life is worth living. If she argues with you it is because she is honest and feels she can be open about how she feels,not because she wants to hurt you. A better wife is a lover, mistress, play mate, counselor, teacher, nurse, housewife, best friend, chef and manager all rolled into one. Every woman can be a better wife by doing what they believe the husband would prefer them to do and putting his needs before that of others. She is your rock and she helps you to get through the days, giving you lovely things to look forward to. She excites you and understands you.

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