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It is interesting that there are more titles questioning whether a woman may be complete without a man than vice versa. I, myself, am not certain how it can be implied that anyone (woman or man) can not be whole if they are lacking a partner. Not everyone wants or needs to be in a relationship to have a wonderful, happy, and fulfilling lifestyle. In fact, in some instances, relationships might hinder you rather than propel you to heights of ecstasy. Other times, a relationship can make your life the best that it has ever been. However, there are far too many other factors that may contribute to feelings of content, or in this case completion.

I am a single woman in my early thirties, and have no desire to be in a relationship. I may not feel as if I am 'complete', but not having a boyfriend or husband is the last thing that lessens my content of my life. I have a great many goals in my life, and striving to meet those goals is more important to me than having a man. Am I complete? No. I may never be. I maintain that I am a work in progress, and that makes my life fun and interesting. I do things that I want to do without having to ask someone's permission, coordinate schedules, or drag along an unwilling participant with me on my excursions. I feel that having a in my life would most definitely slow me down, and put a halt to all that I do for myself. I am not saying that it would be at his insistence that I would change my life or the events within them, because I would most likely wish to appease him whether he asked me to or not.

If I found a nice guy that filled all of my needs, gave me ample amount of space (or me time), was attentive to my needs, and be attractive to me, I might enter into a good relationship. That, however would not mean that I was complete. A man does not complete a woman. Each and every person completes themselves! It is solely dependent on me to make myself or my life complete. To be sure, other people may feel quite differently, but I think that we each play a part in our own destinies.

In the last year of my life I have been twice to New York City to see a play, spent a month and a half with my sisters, brother-in-laws, nieces, nephews, and family and friends in a sort of family reunion, and not once did I say to myself "If only I had a man, I would be complete". I felt quite complete, actually, without one. I was able to spend quality time with the people that I love most in my life without having to worry about what my boyfriend was thinking about them, or how my family liked my boyfriend. It would have been overwhelming to have been in a relationship during that time.

I do not think that real relationships are made up of the same sweet and spicy prototypes that we often see on television and the movies. They take work, care, passion, emotion, understanding, time, effort, and love...shall I go on? Working on all of those things requires constant attention and devotion, and does not equal completion. I shall be complete when my time on earth is through and I have done all in my power that I was born to accomplish. Then, there may or may not be a man there with me at the end. I am as complete as I can be in the stage of my life that I am living right now, and the presence of a man therein would not make much of a difference either way.

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