by Olivia Emisar

Created on: November 01, 2009

Decades ago long distance relationships survived and became stronger because those involved were sacrificing together for a common goal. Their means of communication were sporadic letters and waiting for those was unnerving torture. In this day and age, if long distance relationships don't work, it is simply due to lack of commitment and unrealistic expectations on either one of both people involved.

The long distance relationships that work do so because both parties involved want them to work. Perfect examples are our military men and women who are at the mercy of war schedules and deployments, or our merchant marines who sacrifice long hard months away from home to provide for their families. Credit for their successful relationships can be attributed to both sides of this equation and they all have some things in common to keep the home fires burning.

*1. Communication.

This is the golden key to every good relationship and thankfully, we have a variety of electronic means to make that communication instantly available

Cellular plans offer unlimited calling on evenings and weekends, so staying in touch on a daily basis, sharing each other's day and discussing shared values and mutual goals will keep the relationship strong and healthy until it is time to see each other again.

Regular e-mails just saying "Good Morning!", "I Love you!" and "See you tonight" will make the word day bearable and keep you close to each other's hearts.

Webcams are built into most laptops and decent stand-alones can be purchase for very little money. You can actually have a meal or a cup of coffee face to face on a daily basis.

*2. His Support system.

Stay in physical contact with his/her parents, siblings and friends. Invite them to socialize with you and allow yourself to be close to the people they treasure. This type of bonding is good for everyone involved and cements the relationship in everyone's hearts and minds. The next time they talk to your sweetheart your name will come up and that only helps to keep you in his/her thoughts regularly.

*3. Your support system.

Make sure your friends and family accept the relationship and whenever he/she is in town have a few occasions to socialize with everyone. Being part of the pack makes the absences less daunting and re-joining will not be awkward for everyone involved.

*4. Trust and respect.

Self-respect generates respect for others. Treat her/him with respect and maintain the trust that has been given

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