by Ginger L. Fernandez

Created on: October 29, 2009

I Need to Be Appreciated, Respected and Loved and that ain't happening here!

A Personal Relationship with my Daughter!

In private she either ignores me giving all of her attention to others, or pretends to be the perfect daughter, but on the other hand she is sarcastic, haughty, insulting and puts me down with no apology or remorse (even to her friends) behind their back. She has a very inflated sense of entitlement and ego, acting as if she is better and should never be questioned and believes that I owe her something. She lies to manipulate people for attention, acting a bit too good to be true. Indeed she can be very charming and even humble trying to fool you. So few will believe it if I disclose how she talks to me or the things she says behind their backs. They have to witness it for themselves.

She shows little or no regard for my well-being or feelings. She acts as if she is superior and more popular than I and shows favoritism toward her kids they can do no wrong better yet they don't have to do anything. I guess I owe them and her man a living. While to me she often is cold, arrogant, withdrawn and unavailable.

The criticism, insults and lack of involvement or concern for my well-being and feelings causes us to feel rejected, hurt, humiliated, powerless, ashamed , angry which is leading to psychological problems and addictions within our family.

She causes a lot of pain and humiliation and cause s just as much chaos and destruction in her own life and the lives of us close her.

She lies and paints me in a bad picture. As hurtful as she does this to try and justify their own bad behavior and to gain sympathy from others while they kid themselves that it is the truth. I am not sure of all of the venom she has been starts spitting behind my back until it hits me in the face.

When I try to talk to her about finances she starts fights signaling her hiding her ability to pay her bills even though she owes me. She pretends these fights are my fault attempting to cover her guilt by blaming me.

Her obsession with playing the Sims (her fantasizing) is part of what makes her impatient and angry with me. As a skilled liar she holds tight to so many secrets believing that I am too unaware or ignorant to recognize.

She is not physically abusive, but it is a potential indicator that when I get less capable of taking care of me there may be violent episodes. The physical abuse is not always perpetrated by the narcissist either.

It is becoming evident

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