by Anna Cook

Created on: October 28, 2009   Last Updated: October 30, 2009

Well, let me just start by saying if you have fallen in love with a married man you are not a home wrecker. You are in love. Love is never wrong. The first thing that you have to ask yourself is, is it love or lust? If your answer is love than please keep reading. You may be asking yourself the question " If he'll do it with me will he do it to me?".

My opinion is no, that is not a guarantee. My husband of 4 years was my boss and he was married. I do not consider myself the root for his previous marriages problems or divorce. You can not wreck a happy home. You do have to realize , when it is time to move on. My husband and I have been married for 4 years. We have 2 beautiful children together and he has never shown any signs of infidelity in our relationship. We dated for 8 weeks before his wife moved out and their divorce proceedings started. My advice to anyone who has fallen for a married man is this.

If it is love that is undeniable. Tell him " I understand you have a life, family, home, (whatever the case may be) but if you are not happy where you are we can start our lives together. If he keeps putting it off with excuse after excuse than move on. It will be hard, but it is for the best. If you two move forward together you have to stay out of their situation! As hard as it may be, it is crucial to your relationship. Children may be another issue but always remember no matter what their age may be, you are not their mother and you never will be. Not to be mean, but children are hurt more in a divorce than anyone else. It is okay to be supportive, but be sure to know where the boundary lines are. Last but not least, enjoy what you have.

Don't waste time being worried about what if he goes back, what if it is to much stress. If you are supportive in every decision that he makes, you are keeping him reassured that you are the one for him. Don't ask questions about his past and what went wrong. It makes them feel interrogated and quite frankly it really doesn't matter. Treat your relationship as a new one with no history and you will be fine. Love him and all that comes with him and you will be picture perfect. Good luck ladies!

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