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Are people actually created in pairs, and marriages actually made in heaven? Is there someone out there who is just right for you, just perfect, just waiting to meet?

As far as my experience goes, it doesn't matter how closely a person you meet matches up to the image of Mr Right or Ms Right that you always had in mind. What matters is how willing the two of you are to accept each other with all your imperfections. What matters is how hard and how patiently you are willing to work at your relationship. Once two people agree on a few of the most basic things that a couple needs to agree on, it doesn't really matter how many other things they agree on. What matters is how gracefully they can agree to disagree. Accept that the other person may think differently about various subjects, and that the other person has their own freedom of expression, and that you need to respect that. Both partners should understand and respect the other's point of view, and accept it, not try to change it.

Any person you meet and date in your lifetime will have some imperfections. Some annoying habits that will sometimes drive you up the wall. There will be some areas where their beliefs and schools of thought don't match or complement yours. Nobody will be the exact other half of a jigsaw puzzle. Although, of course, they may initially appear to be.

People are imperfect, they are flawed. That's what makes us human. Your partner will have some flaws, just as you do. Two people can be completely perfect for each other only in a fantasy world. In the real world, there will be days when they will give each other headaches and make them feel like banging their head against a wall. There will be times when one or both people will want to get out of the relationship. But, once they understand that they have to learn to accept certain personality quirks in their partners, they'll move past all of that and focus on the good parts of the relationship. On how special and valued the other person makes them feel. How they're always there when they're needed. How they make things feel better on the gloomiest days, just by lending a patient listening ear and a comforting hug. Because relationships are not about being perfect for each other. They are about learning to accept and live with the imperfections and to accentuate the good in each other.

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