by Jordan Baker

Created on: October 28, 2009

Before you catch yourself obsessing over the perfect date, perfect conversation, and every other reason why he should have called you, lets take a look at the bitter truth he didn't. Only when this reality is grasped can we begin to detect the crucial signs that could have saved you days of analyzing the situation, making excuses for him, and uselessly hanging on to a hope that will never be realized.

One sign that is often ignored by women is a man's reputation. Many times women become so swept up by their own infatuation that they are blinded to the red flags all around them. If any mutual friends comment on his fear of commitment, lack of interest in ever settling down, or staple him has not boyfriend material, there is something to be said for all of it. Although in time his priorities will most likely change, you do not want to be the girl caught in the in between. You will most likely be used and tossed away. Although I'm sure there are exceptions to this rule, they are few and far between, so your best bet if you cant imagine just letting go is to remain friendly until you see a change of heart, because if he is not ready to commit to anyone, he is most likely not ready to commit to you.

Here's another scenario, you've met a guy who is full of the right words to say, made the effort to take you on a date, overall a seemingly nice guy who was genuine in his efforts to get to know you as a person. If his contacting you abruptly stops, the reason could amount to several things. He may not have been looking for something serious, he only wanted to sleep with you and realized he was wasting his time and money, or the chemistry just wasn't there. Whatever the reason may be, the fact is that you did not hear from him. And if you were the girl he wanted to be with, you would've been the one girl he got in touch with. No matter how perfect everything was to you, it just wasn't so perfect to him; even if you receive a call from him several weeks later, chances are that he didn't wait that long because he cared so much and couldn't handle his feelings. He most likely was bored and remembered that you existed after having been rejected by everyone else. The bottom line is that if you don't hear from him within a few days, its time to forget about him and move on.

Another sign that should not be ignored is when a guy uses his so-called pain from past relationships as an excuse to remain uncommitted to you. When he claims that he hasn't called you because he was so afraid of having feelings for someone and being hurt again, he is most likely lying. No man will be scared away by caring too much for you, at least not to the point of breaking things off. If he has actually been through a devastating heartbreak, and his feelings for you are in fact as strong as he claims, in no way shape or form will he allow a failed relationship to influence him so much that he will let you go.

All of these are red flags that can be noticed early on; however, the one thing that reveals most about whether or not he is interested in you, is the fact that you have to ask yourself that question at all.

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