We've all been there. Dear John. Dumped. No one likes to be the dumped. And it's even more likely that no one likes to be the dumper, either. But, nonetheless, there comes a time when we all must face the end to a relationship that we hold dear.
Sometimes the dumper responds to the end by simply disappearing, leaving the other person to wonder what happened. Was it me? Was it him? Did he or she get into an accident? Did he or she die? This is NOT the best way to end a relationship. It raises hidden questions and can spook somebody into forever thinking that they will NEVER be able to trust someone again or be in a relationship that will make them happy.

My suggestion is that before you end the relationship, you give it some serious consideration. You could just be angry. Or you could change your mind. If, however, you must end the relationship, I think the best way is to use the standard "It's not you, it's me." As clich as this is, it is in fact the truth. You are choosing to end the relationship because of a personal preference that is in you.

This will still be confusing to your partner. But if they take a moment's pause and really stop to think about it, they will be comforted by the fact that it is you and not they.

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