by Chris Tilley

Created on: October 27, 2009

I love you, she says eyebrows batting. I am so in love with you, he says before a sloppy, annoying kiss. Too much love can exist. When you just shiver when you hear it, it is too much.

Yes, you really can hear or say the words I love you too much. Interest peaks and lulls like the weather. And really, just what kind of love do you have? I usually want to hear the answer to that one when someone says it. Is it companionate? Is it fatuous? Is it romantic? Or is it empty? Do we have intimacy, passion, and commitment? One, a combination, or all three, how do you love me? These are important questions to ask. And the answers may make the words a little less annoying.

To think about the personality of the relationship can really sort out if the words are too much. Is one partner bullying, the other bargaining? Is one autocratic, the other submissive? And which one are you? There are so many ways that the two partners don't really make it to a full one. Always a fractured fraction with words making up the last third can make the letters l-o-v-e seem a little too LARGE.

So simply, what makes these sacred words seem just annoying? What constitutes this disgrace by us all from time to time? Well, without intimacy, passion, and commitment, it is just empty love, a decision love guided by the concept of commitment. A passionate and committed relationship is a fatuous love, an obsession. In my experiences of romantic love, I have found that the intimacy low to high and the passion maximum to none influenced me to feel a cringe at the words. Never really having had a companionate love, I would have to say intimacy with commitment must keep the passion steady.

I wonder if will believe every utterance of the damn sacred three words if I were to ever know companionate love. That would be consummate desire acquired making l-o-v-e just enough expressed love.The words might be too much because the love is undefined. They could be an irritation because you do not love the speaker. Or it could just be that there was a more attractive person at the store when the partner once said it. And that one time just became every time it was spoken. And then it really is time to stop hearing them from that partner. Or hint, You're just saying that.

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