by Carol Gioia

Created on: October 27, 2009   Last Updated: August 11, 2011

Whether an issue occurs in the workplace or on the home front, knowing how to effectively problem-solve can make a world of  difference in the quality of your life and relationships.

No matter how well one plans or prepares in advance, unexpected or unforseen negative events are apt to occur on occasion, causing problems.  If, like the vast majority of people, you sometimes feel overwhelmed, lamenting about all the unexpected issues that arise, adding stress to your already busy life, then you might want to adopt the following problem-solving skills:

* Identify the problem

We can't fix what we don't recognize is broken, or know how it got that way. If you are frustrated at work, impatient with a child who will not cooperate, or having anxiety about another life issue, take time out to think about what is really going on. Maybe you need more training for your job, or your child is acting out over difficulties at school. Whatever the issue, you cannot find a resolution until you've identified the root of the problem.

* Gather information

Ensure you know all the details surrounding the problem. An important component to problem-solving is determining if you have all the facts before attempting to take action. Perhaps your child is being bullied at school, and that accounts for his anger and uncooperative attitude. You are unable to effectively address a problem until you know all the facts.

* Examine the control factor

Decide which elements of the problem are within your control, and which are out of your control to resolve. You cannot change other people or force them to act in your best interest. The resolution to your problem will only be effective if it can be accomplished through your own efforts or changes in behavior.

* Use process of elimination

Make a list of all the potential solutions to your problem. Examine each one from all angles to determine the probability of success. By process of elimination, you will be able to discover which solution will work best for your situation.

* Choose the best option

Once you have explored all of your options and determined which will afford you the greatest opportunity for success, you are ready to proceed toward resolution.

*  Acceptance

Some problems are not in your control to resolve.  When that is the case, determne to adopt an attitude of acceptance.  There is no virtue in becoming anxious or angry about a situation you cannot change.  Sometimes practicing tolerance and calm acceptance is the best you can do when a problem persists over which you have little or no control.

Methodically working through your problems in this manner will enable you to be in more control of your life, thus increasing your feelings of self-esteem.  Your sense of independence and peace of mind will be vastly improved once you have mastered the art of effective problem-solving.

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