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When should you give an ex a second chance? That is a good question, and the answer isn't a simple one either. A relationship ends for a reason, and while some break ups occur simply because two parties both see the relationship isn't worth pursuing, some do end pretty badly. You also have to consider the reasons why the relationship would be worth saving? Are you doing something worthwhile, or are you simply going back to your ex because there isn't anything better?

If the relationship ended because you two just weren't ready for a relationship, or because the timing just didn't work out, you might consider giving your ex a second chance. Sometimes it just happens that you start a relationship when you really weren't ready for it, or were coming off another relationship and still had feelings for someone else. Maybe you were younger and immature the first time, and time has allowed the two of you to gain a better perspective on your future chances.

The one thing you never want to do when considering going back out with an ex is to go back to them simply because there is nothing better out there. You don't need a relationship to be a good person, and there is no reason to put yourself through whatever it was that made the relationship worth ending in the first place. What happens if you get back with your ex, and then you meet someone who is a better fit for you?

The situation then just gets awkward, and it really messes up the relationship between you and your ex. I'm not talking from a dating standpoint, but what if you were friends after the first break up? What happens now, do you still stay friends, or does one side feel betrayed, and now you lost a girlfriend, and a friend as well. It is much better to just let a failed relationship stay in the past, and not try to bring it up again out of desperation.

If there were issues that needed to be worked out, do you think that they can be worked out? If you feel like your ex is just going to cheat on you again, or nag you about your habits all day, and not respect your need for space, why bother? Nothing is going to change unless you and your ex make an effort to change the relationship from what it was, to what it needs to be to work out.

Every relationship is different, so it can be hard to say when you should take an ex back, or when you shouldn't take an ex back. Just keep in mind that by taking back your ex, you may be signaling that the behavior they used in the past is OK, and that you will just keep taking it. Don't take the ex back unless you think that there is a chance that things will be different, and there is something that you honestly think is worth working out.

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