by Russell Waldron

Created on: October 26, 2009

So your child has been expelled or suspended from school. Perchance this isn't the first time your child has displayed problems with fitting into the educational system. You will be disheartened, this child you had so many hopes and dreams for is now showing signs of belligerence, aggression, disinterest and so much more.

First and foremost know that you are not alone, a myriad of parents all over the world are going through or have gone through the very same heartache and disappointment. Right from kindergarten to high school kids are being expelled and suspended from school on a daily basis. Many of these kids seemed so academically sound yet now they are displaying all the signs of delinquents, bullies and so forth.

As we all know, school vary in what is and what is not acceptable behaviour. Each school district has its own list of what will and what will not be tolerated. Reasons for being expelled or suspended can be anything from, threatening violence, attempted violence, malicious damage to school property possession of a weapon such as a knife or firearm, substance abuse or furnishing a substance which is deemed a drug. Theft, smoking of tobacco, obscene language or actions, disruptive behaviour, supplying or reading of pornographic literature or defiance of school authority.

If the child were an adult it is quite likely they would be jailed, therefore as parents we must understand that these acts are punishable. Of course we do not wish our children to end up incarcerated so what do we do when our child is expelled/suspended from school?
The very first thing a parent needs to do is fully comprehend that a child's poor behaviour is a smoke screen for what is going on within their mind. It is an obvious sign that something problematic is disturbing the child. Their unruly acts are the outwards signs of what is actually manifesting within.

Your child's inner turmoil did not happen overnight, something has been disturbing them for some time now. One needs to find the true source of the problem and help their child in every manner they can. Many parents fail to see that their child has a problem and this is not always the fault of the parents as children can camouflage things very well if needed. In other cases parents often put down poor behaviour to the child's age, thinking this is normal. Some parents tend to think that their child is just displaying their individuality, standing their ground. But condoning poor behaviour only increases its occurrence.

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