by W.C. Klein

Created on: October 24, 2009   Last Updated: October 28, 2009

Tips for avoiding divorce

With divorce rates reaching upwards of 80% everyone knows someone whose been affected by a divorce. These people are our friends, coworkers and sometimes our own family members. There are a few factors that increase the likelihood of a divorce. A few of these include fairly obvious reasons that can be easily identified. These include marrying at too young an age, not dating long enough to really know your partner or perhaps marrying with the expectation of changing their partner into someone that they would like better. While these increase the chance of divorce, there isn't usually a single reason, but rather a nasty combination of reasons that cause it. These problems often become toxic and manifest themselves as everyday problems that we all have experienced.

One of the major and most common problems is the issue of money. This problem isn't always the lack of money or how and why it was spent; it is often a deeper problem of the relationship that the money represents. These problems often include personal friendships, spousal dependency and relationship control issues.

Another very common problem that is often the cause for divorce is sexual infidelity. This isn't always the recognition, confirmation or physical proof of a partner's infidelity. It is rather the assumption or suspicion of one spouse that the other is cheating. This problem often represents many other personal relationship issues that include spousal control, personal freedom, emotional security, personal pleasure and self worth. All of these are extreme problems that can make the relationship worse. Inevitably these feelings add fuel to the fire and present problems that should be immediately addressed.

Other times it is abuse that becomes a major issue. Any abuse can cause these problems and often it represents deeper relationship issues. The list of the abuse includes drugs, alcohol, verbal, physical and sexual abuse. This abuse can take many forms and is not always an issue if one partner physically abusing another or demeaning their partner verbally. It is often self abuse that causes many of these problems; these include drug and alcohol abuse. When a spouse abuses themselves this always affects the entire family. When your spouse abuses drugs or alcohol the entire family is affected and usually they are considered collateral damage.

In order to be successful one of you has to verbalize your feelings and hopefully this will make your spouse want to discuss

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