by Tracy Lynn Richards

Created on: October 24, 2009   Last Updated: October 27, 2009

Don't tie what wasn't meant to be tied!

In Jan of 2007 I had made the life changing decision to get my tubes tied. It is a decision that I will forever regret. There are so many things that I was not told before having this surgery performed that I wish I would have know.

When I decided to do this I had just gotten through with my divorce and was really convinced that at 28, I wasn't going to find anyone who wanted to get serious with me because I was already a mother of 2. Plus, did I really ever even want to put myself in the position again to be bonded to another jerk (like my ex husband) for the rest of my life because we had children together? It was pretty clear to me at the time that I THOUGHT it was the best decision I could make. I didn't want to risk the chance of an oops happening either and end up like one of those women who have 4 kids with 3 different fathers. I have enough problems as it is! From the mental perspective, I thought I was ready. I justified it all to a T. Or so I thought.

Sometimes life presents us with things we haven't thought of, things unexpected that weren't covered in the original justifications. You see, I forgot to make a list of what if's while I was justifying my choice to not have any more kids. I was selfish and I was lonely and I didn't have faith that anyone would come into my life that this choice would affect. It turns out I was wrong.

Two weeks after my surgery I was at a work when an attractive young man came in. He asked to look at watches and I showed him a few. We begin talking and like always at this job, I tried to get the most info I could to build trust to get him to open an account with us. I learned he was 21 years old, from Michigan, and was in Ohio to go to welding school. He was very quiet and not at all like anyone I'd think would be attracted to me. He looked more preppy and usually the guys that are attracted to me are the jobless losers who see a girl with a big heart that they know they can manipulate. He left the store and I thought nothing of it, like I said he was young. He was 7 years younger than me to be exact!

A few days later he came back into the store and saw me right away. He said I'm sorry I didn't catch your name the other day. I told him my name and also told him I wrote it on the business card I gave him and said did you lose that already? I was kidding of course. He then proceeded to ask me to show him around town if I wasn't busy one day and that he would buy me a drink. I accepted

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