by christina christou

Created on: October 24, 2009

'I'm so tired and everything is getting on top of me and I still have things to do before.....'

To another woman this may be easy to understand and relate to. She is tired and she does have a lot to do, but what she is saying is that she feels alone in all this. She is trying to say, 'I wish someone else would take over and let me take a break.' A man may be puzzled by now and think, well why doesn't she just say it straight?

Women are the nurturers by nature and the ones who take care of everyone else. It may or may not come natural, but what comes natural is the expectation of others and of women themselves. As life becomes increasingly more complex with roles less clear, a woman's role is blurred.

A woman is the homemaker, the child bearer, the child carer. Most women work part time if not full time. They take care of the groceries the house the business the extra curricula taxi service for her brood. They are expected to also look hot 24/7 and also fulfil bedroom duties when their darling other half comes home, tired from a full day's work.

Where a man may say, I'm tired and mean just that, a woman may say, I'm tired and mean a multitude of things - I'm tired of my life, I'm tired of you, the kids, my job and so on. So men, and anyone interested in understanding how the woman mind works, following are some examples deciphered to help in better understanding these ambiguous conversations:

1. Do you love me?

meaning: I am feeling insecure and unloved, can I have a hug please?

2. Are you working late tonight?

meaning: I hope you are not because I would really like your help with.....

3. ( The classic) Does my bum look big in this?)

meaning: I am feeling unattractive and frumpy, please say something nice so that I feel good about myself.

4. You always do this? (could be anything, like forget to take out the garbage)

meaning: I'm sick of being the only responsible person in this house.

The list goes on, and on. Sometimes what a woman says is what she means, like I hate your guts. But it is just transitory, and thank your lucky stars for this clear communication, at least you know the truth (even if it hurts).

One word of advice is be sensitive to your loved one. Be as understanding as you can, by asking her if there is anything you can help her with. If she says no, do something for her anyway, women like it when men use their initiative. But beware, you may get this wrong too, not because your are flawed, only because women are very temperamental creatures (I know this from myself).

Don't try too hard to understand her, just love her and show her this, without saying, 'I did this for you, I did that for you'. Just do it and enjoy the good bits. If there aren't any good bits, then maybe you should think about why you are in the relationship.

Learn more about this author, christina christou.
Click here to send this author comments or questions.