by Victorious Heart

Created on: October 23, 2009   Last Updated: October 28, 2009

Tips for avoiding divorce

To love, honor and cherish, till death do us part. As you slipped the ring on her finger you saw that sparkle in her eyes, and as you kissed your new bride, you couldn't resist gently pressing on the small of her back. Your heart swelled with love and anticipation of your future together. Now many years after the honeymoon you are starting to question the state of your marriage, fearing that divorce may actually be an option. You start to wonder, Is it truly possible to stay happily married to one person for the rest of your life? Well, I believe it is possible to come back from the brink of divorce if both you and your partner are committed to doing everything in your power to save your marriage.

Most of us are aware of what factors cause a marriage to break down such as taking each other for granted, finding fault, denying martial issues, casting blame, infidelity, and many more serious issues. But what can we do to help a marriage have a fighting chance to succeed? Besides agreeing to disagree, finding middle ground, developing patience, and being rational and calm, what key ingredients need to be in place?

Five 'absolutely necessary' commitments married couples need to make daily:

1.Your marriage must have a purpose

It is so important to find a purpose on a much larger scale than just having fun, buying your dream house or making your marriage work. Becoming involved in causes that are meaningful to you will last a lifetime, broaden your focus, create excitement and bring a sense of well being into your marriage. You can take steps to ending child abuse, global warming, raise money for breast cancer, etc)

2.Make communication a priority

Never hide anything from your partner, share everything. Having the skills to communicate in an open and honest way when something is bothering you will take a way a lot of the stress that can build up in a marriage. Never assume that your partner knows what you need or how you feel. Always clarify your expectations, feelings, roles, beliefs. You need to spell it out, never expect your partner to guess. Communicate your feelings of love often; don't wait until the perfect moment to say 'I love you'. Say it every day.

3.Trust your partner

Trust is a key ingredient in any successful marriage. If there's no trust, then there's no marriage. Both partners should always behave in ways that build trust and strengthen faith. Become deserving of each others trust. Mutual trust must be respected and protected

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