by ek ellis

Created on: October 21, 2009   Last Updated: October 24, 2009

You get out of a relationship what you put into it. What you may feel you deserve and what you actually get from it might not be what you are expecting.

When you enter into a relationship, you are entering into unexplored territory. The newness of it is so exciting you don't stop to think about much of anything, except the high you are feeling being with this person.

As time progresses and now you've made that commitment, you're starting to see subtle changes in your mate. At first they were attentive, now that attention has begun to wane.

The sweet talk, hugs and kisses have become less and less. You are not receiving the same respect you are showing, your being treated with indifference.

It is time for you to wake up and smell the coffee, so to speak. It's time for you to reevaluated your needs and what do you deserve from this relationship.

We know respect is a must, you give it unconditionally, but you deserve it too. You are no ones doormat. Communication is essential to any relationship, without that you are doomed for failure. You deserve to have an open communicative relationship.

You deserve to be treated at all times like a lady, you have never acted anything less. Your feelings deserve to be taken into consideration. Hurtful words can cause bruises you don't see and take longer to heal.

You live by "treat others as you would treat yourself:, you are good to yourself and to your significant other. You show kindness, display loyalty, give comfort, offer understanding. You listen and are there to be of support.

You deserve no less. You receive what you give and you deserve to be treated like a person who is loved, cared for, cherished. You deserve to be honored and placed first before anything or anyone. You would give no less to your mate.

What do you deserve in a relationship, your expectations are not unreasonable. You expect to be treated with dignity. You deserve to be loved. You deserve to be valued. You deserve not to be taken for granted. You deserve to have your emotional needs addressed and not overlooked.

You ask for patience, you deserve forgiveness if you make a mistake. You deserve to be yourself. In a relationship you deserve the best because in receiving the best you can only return the best, so what do you deserve in a relationship? That's a personal question each and everyone should ask themselves to see if they are getting what they deserve in their relationship.

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