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You can primp and preen in front of the mirror all morning or all evening in preparation for your day or evening out and it won't help unless you possess confidence. Have you often wondered why are they attracted to that person; they certainly aren't pretty or handsome. I'm going to tell you a little story and hopefully when you finish reading you'll understand my first sentence of this article.

My girlfriend and I used to do a lot of partying. I was young and though not beautiful, attractive. We would dress up in our best partying clothes and head out for the evening. Most of the time we might attract some attention but nothing or no one to our satisfaction. Each evening we tended to leave early from one party and head for another seeking more fun and more attention. This went on for some time. I was new to this scene and relatively shy. I decided I just wasn't pretty enough to attract the opposite sex and was doomed to be alone.

One evening I was feeling particularly happy and good about life. I didn't really care if anyone noticed me that night because I was happy and content just being me. That night I didn't primp; in fact that night I didn't even wear make up and grabbed an old shirt that used to belong to my brother and threw it on to wear with a pair of jeans. I entered the party with this attitude of confidence and happiness. Amazing thing happened that night. My girlfriend and I were swarmed by admirers, both male and female that wanted our attention. We had a blast. The happiness and care free attitude did more to attract attention than all the primping and cute outfits, etc. that we had tried in the past.

What I learned that evening out was that no matter how I looked unless I presented myself as a happy and confident person, people didn't want to be around me. All of us go out to have a good time and we want to be around people that can help us find that good time. Are you going to be attracted to someone sitting alone seemingly not having a good time or wanting to be at the party? That person could just be shy but you don't know that. You came to have a good time and those are the people you are going to be drawn towards.

Sure, you may look super in that new outfit but it takes more than just good looks. Good looks help some people get in but the true draw is "you", the person within that outward shell. I had a girlfriend that I didn't think was pretty at all but she always had dates and a group of friends around her. I finally realized why after that night out that what made her so popular was her happy go lucky attitude and the confidence she exuded. Don't even bother with the primping unless you can exude the confidence and happiness as they are magnets that will draw the attention you are seeking.

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