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Is giving up a child for adoption giving or selfish?

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by Angelique Yvonne

Created on: October 21, 2009

In most cases giving up a child for adoption is selfish, If you don't want children or our to young to have them, you honestly shouldn't be having sex. Yes they may seem mean to most people, but we have taken out all of the responsibility that people should have for the chooses they make. "Oh you don't want to have a baby we will fix that, just abort it or give it up" That isn't thinking about what his best for the child, or even the mother. Your giving up something that grew inside of you because it is easier then fixing your life and working harder to be something for that baby. Instead of putting yourself first think about your child. There are many people and groups that will help you succeed.

I know, I am a mother of 2 at 21, My first one is 4 and his father and I really didn't plan things out. He was abusive and got whatever he wanted from me. And my amazing son came from it. It was extremely hard, I was 16, He was crazy, But after I left everything in my life seemed to fall into place, I went many days without sleep finishing school and working, But I did it. My second boy, was conceived from a rape. Now this I believe is a okay situation to give the baby up for adoption, not all woman can deal with the emotional stress of it. But I love both of them just the same. And so does my fiancee

Yes, some child are better off being adopted but that doesn't make there birth parents any less selfish. If they weren't being selfish then they would have worked harder and keep there baby, just cause it made things "easier" on them. That is all it is. If you aren't prepared to be a parents, then you shouldn't be having sex, plan and simple. Think about the choices you are making and see if your prepared to handle the consequences of your chooses. If your not then you shouldn't be doing it. A baby is a life, a human, and there need shall always come before your own.

I was adopted, and my birth parents were druggies, but the damage that they did to my siblings and I strictly cause they couldn't clean up for us, was great. And the simple truth way, they didn't want too. Do they love us, yes, but not more then they loved themselves.

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