by Greg W Huffman

Created on: October 21, 2009   Last Updated: March 21, 2010

Are you falling out of love?  Have you recently been contemplating divorce?  Avoiding divorce can be accomplished by taking a hard look at your relationship.  Evaluating the pro's and con's of staying married is a must.  Before you embark on your soul searching journey, remember that happiness is your soul intention.  Does this person still make you happy or do you daydream about them falling back on something sharp?

Who needs statistics these days to see that divorce rates are out of control? Currently, finding Jimmy Hoffa would be easier than getting an invitation to a 30 year wedding anniversary. Some say that "you just know" when you find your significant other. Love at first sight is a good indicator that you are attracted to a specific person. Meeting someone for the first time, can overwhelm your senses into believing the person you met is the one you want to grow old with. Take a deep breath. One of the greatest factors in avoiding a divorce, is to simply know who you want to marry before you actually tie the knot. Many people rush into marriage not knowing their prospective spouse. Communication before marriage is essential in deciding how many anniversaries you will celebrate together.

A long marriage results from a short memory. Don't hold grudges in your marriage. Everyone makes mistakes and we normally hurt the ones we love the most. Sometimes, small arguments turn into larger ones when old arguments are revisited. Leave the past in the past. If you truly love your husband or wife, you must forgive them. It can be hard to forgive someone, especially if you have been lied to, cheated on, or mistreated. If we constantly dwell on the bad times, we throw paint thinner on the mental paintings of the good times shared.

Today we use the term "love" without discretion. I love candy. I love football. I love to spend money. Get serious about using the word love and show your partner what love is. No relationship can last without true love. What is true love? Love is looking into your partners eyes and knowing that you would give your life for them. When your partner says "I love you", and it is the sweetest words spoken to you all day. When your partner cries, you can hear your heart tearing. Do not make the mistake of saying "I love you" out of habit. Make it common practice to say it with purpose every time you say it. Remember, that love is illuminated through loving actions. Don't just tell your partner you love them. Show your

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