by Carmel Brulez

Created on: October 20, 2009

Whether or not the internet can damage a relationship depends on so much, the personality of the people concerned and how good their relationship was before. But yes it can damage relationships if one or both are willing to let it.

Some people get addicted to sitting on the net surfing and chatting in chat rooms. Because the computer is there in their home with them it tempts them to return for another go, again and again, just as cigarettes are sitting there in a packet asking us to come and smoke another one. We excuse it by saying well it is only five minutes, but then five minutes becomes half an hour.... again... and before you know it you have been on the computer for ages on and off all day.

However it is not fair to blame everything on the computer. To blame the computer is as daft as blaming McDonalds and saying it is there fault if someone goes in there over and over regularly, buying huge meals full of salt and fat, gets fat and unhealthy and then complains. We have to take responsibilty for our choices and actions. Nobody forces us to sit and use a computer, we have people around uf we can talk to, we can go out, we can watch the television or read. If we do not have the discipline to pull ourselves away from the computer and do something else we only have ourselves to blame.

If we live alone then we are not hurting others if we sit at a computer for a long time, but we should ask ourselves if it was the best way to use that time or if it would have been better to see a friend or go out.

If you have a partner who is forever on the computer and seems to be neglecting you do not blame the computer. Your partner is to blame. But also take some of the blame yourself. It is up to you to be a nice partner to be with so that they prefer to be with you to being on the computer. When they decide they would rather sit on the computer... again... it must be partly because they feel that other things around them are less interesting. Some people are simply computer addicts but sometimes when one of a couple are forever on their computer it shows the relationship is not going as well as it should, particularly if they are chatting away to others when they could have been chatting to their partner.

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