by Ken Kupstis

Created on: October 19, 2009   Last Updated: October 26, 2009

SQUARE PEGS DO NOT FIT IN ROUND HOLES.

Men 'cheat'. Men 'stray'. Men have 'roving eyes'. If you haven't experienced this for yourself yet, perhaps you've seen it on hundreds of episodes of Oprah, Montel, Ricki Lake, Jerry (RETCH) Springer, or heard countless tearful phone calls to Dr. Laura Schlesinger. Agonized, heartbroken women despairing that 'their' man is straying, leaving, or beginning to look elsewhere.

Square pegs do not fit in round holes.

Two factors of this continue to amaze me: A), that this psychodrama began in the Cro-Magnon Era, it's still going on today, and a huge amount of women still have not drawn any conclusions about this; they feel the male need for sexual variety is aberrant, evil or can somehow be 'corrected'. B), even more women think this behavior is some sort of personal attack on them, that straying is done out of malice, spite or revenge. Still other women think that it's somehow their fault, that they did something wrong, or they weren't good enough for or to their man.

Nine times out of ten, it's not the case. Square pegs do not fit in round holes.

Monogamy may be the unwritten rule of Western Civilization, but it is not the practice! Out of four thousand species of mammals on the planet, fewer than one percent mate for life. Numerous heroes of the Bible-all well-favored by God- have more than one wife. Ironically, God broke out the ol' whippin' stick on a whole lot of his monogamous children.

The overwhelming majority of human males have a natural desire for sexual variety. Take me again (Again and again and again!): I've had relationships with over a hundred women. I've walked out on beautiful women, rich women, kind women, women who could change tires with their mouths, and dozens of combinations thereof. At no time did I ever think 'All right, this is really going to hurt her, I hope her heart breaks into a thousand pieces, I can't wait to imagine her suffering like she's being roasted on a flaming spit!' I truly didn't want to hurt anyone, and still don't. For their part, the various girls didn't deliberately hurt me either. The simple truth is that I was bored, and as such, I wasn't doing that girl any good. It took me decades of anguish-for not only me but my lovers-before I understood and accepted my polyamorous nature.

The one tentpole that props up monogamy is the fact that our young take so long to become self-reliant. Your average newborn giraffe is up and running after a few dozen well-meaning kicks from Mommy

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