by Lisbet Loiselle

Created on: October 19, 2009

At some point in our lives, we have always wondered if someone liked us, right? (High school or college mainly, but us adults are guilty as well, right?) What were the signs? Were they acting differently toward us? Probably. Let's talk "guys" (alright; because I'm a girl, so this will focus on the male-looking-for-female issue.) For example, if a guy just meets you and is interested they will likely ask you out for dinner, a drink, coffee or anything similar. They want to get to know you. If ,after such a meeting, they actually have a liking for you, they may ask you out again. Whatever it is you do then, there are things that you can look at that might tip you off. For sake of simplicity, let's make a list:

1. They will either ask you out for dinner again, to their house for dinner, or to an "event". (an event can be anything; a hike, a sporting game, a work function, a social get-together.)

2. If that then stems into another "date" you may find yourself in another "event," because they are trying to show you off so that their friends approve. If you've made it to a one-on-one event, that's progress! If not, that's pretty typical, and they still they think you're totally special.

3. They will call you. Either to say "hi," ask you out, see how your are or anything else of the sort. If they are even calling in the first place, that means they are thinking of you. (Probably in the shower, or while cooking mac 'n cheese, or while talking to their mother-whom they actually called to talk about you to...)

4. If they don't like you after all of this, they will gradually "drop" you. They may still call randomly, but more likely than not, they will leave you high and dry. Word of advice? Don't bother calling them. They clearly aren't worth your precious time.

5. If they DID call you yet AGAIN and invited you to more "events," or just wanted to talk, etc...well, they like you. Move on with them, my friend, with grace and confidence. They obviously like you for you; your personality, your ambition, your interests, whatever. This is the beginning of a possibly great and fulfilling relationship.

6. At this point, if you two are clicking, try and see the good in each other and create a a fantastic life together (whether it's short-lived or long-term.) If things aren't kosher? Well, end it while you can, don't hurt each other, and move on. Move on to another person, wherever they may be, but don't panic! Relationships are complex and hard to come by, so enjoy yourself in your endeavor and know that love will come to you, as it does for all of us.

The bottom line to all of this is? Follow your heart. If you are having fun? Participate. If not? Leave. Really. Spare yourself the effort you could put into a relationship that is useless. A word of advice is to be yourself. It is so simple, but so true. If someone piques an interest in you it is because they see YOU for who you are, so don't change! If they are interested in your life, your words and your ambition; keep 'em on your line, because they're a keeper.

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