by Nina Hammiel Turner

Created on: October 17, 2009   Last Updated: October 18, 2009

In 2004, Greg Behrendt published the book "He's just not that into you: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys." The book was an instant success and women around the world had an Aha moment. For some reason before Greg so bluntly titled his book women were walking around wondering if the latest guy in their life liked them as much as they liked him. They spent hours deciphering some guy's every move, word and gesture using friends and google as a guide. But, at the end of the day the truth was he just wasn't that into her. So, how do you know if the guy you like is really into you or not? Here are a few signs to look out for.

He doesn't call you when he says he will. It's true that some guys work a lot and lead busy lives, but if he really likes you he'll make time to call you. You won't be an afterthought or someone who slipped his mind. He only calls you late at night. There's no nice way to say it. If your guy only calls you so he can come over or vice versa late at night then you're a booty call. You're the last resort so that he doesn't have to sleep alone and so he can get laid. He doesn't invite you to meet his friends. He may not want to rush things, but if a guy really likes you and wants to be in a relationship then he'll introduce you to his friends. Why? Because just like women, guys rely on their friends for advice. Beyond seeking advice why wouldn't he want to show you off so his friends can see what a great woman he has in his life. He doesn't want to meet your friends. You may think he's great and that you're in a relationship or at least on your way, but if he doesn't want to meet your friends he may not feel the same way. If he's into you, he'll be happy to meet your friends and be apart of your life. He never asks you out. Maybe you've spent a lot of time talking on the phone with your guy and inviting him over to your place, but he never asks you out. Is he just suffering from the recession blues or is he just not that into you? Chances are he's just not that into you. If he really likes you, he'll ask you out. He doesn't remember anything you tell him. Lots of people have bad memories, but when you like someone you make an effort to listen to them and to get to know them. If he doesn't remember the things you've told him like your favorite color or your best friend's name, then he's probably not that into you.

These are only a few of the signs that may mean he's just not that into you. The biggest sign is your gut feeling. Don't romanticize the truth. Either he's into you or he's not. If he's not that into you then save yourself some trouble and heartache and move on. You may feel bad in the moment, but you'll thank yourself later.

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