There are, of course, many reasons why people divorce. But there are 10 top ones which seem to crop up regularly between couples and they can be divided into two clear categories.

1. The PHYSICAL reasons which tend to be self inflicted mainly through a lack of knowledge, skill and training in social interaction as well as a lack of self control.

2. The EMOTIONAL ones which are not foreseen because they are either lying dormant until a particular time, they emerge in an emotional crisis or they answer a specific need within us according to where we are in our lives.

There is always hope of fixing the physical reasons through counselling, conflict resolution or open, honest discussions between the couple. But the emotional reasons are almost impossible to fix because they often form part of our natural character. Moreover, many people are often unaware their actions have changed or are unsure why they are behaving that way. In fact, it is safe to say that a marriage is more likely to be lost if it is beset by the top emotional reasons.

Top Physical Reasons for Divorce

a. Lack of communication

Long marriages, in particular suffer from this. A couple gradually realise that they are mismatched in communication. They hardly talk to each other, they stop sharing activities, they do not discuss important aspects of the relationship and, worst of all, they are not intellectually compatible. Soon they stop trying to communicate and avoid opportunities to do so. In essence, being unable to connect with one another, they mainly tolerate each other in an air of resignation rather than finding anything in common they wish to share.

b. Money problems

Any recession is a bad time for a marriage. A partnership can be fine when everyone is comfortable, there is enough money to go round and all is well. But recession and its effects test a marriage to the limit. Gradually the couple has to utilise their own emotional, physical and intellectual resources to keep things on an even keel. That is not very easy to do when there are bills to be paid, children and household expenses and a partner might have lost a job. Such fraught times strain the strongest relationships and it is not long before the blame and resentment creep in.

c. Social activity abuse

This reason is both an emotional and physical one, but, as it is usually self-inflicted, it mainly belongs to this category. For whatever reason, people become involved in drinking too much alcohol, gambling too much or taking drugs,

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