by Deon Guillet

Created on: October 15, 2009

Loss. What does it mean to loose someone. I mean, physically the person who had passed on may not be there; however, mentally and spiritually they are. The people live on through memories. Those memories may be through pictures, stories, and even dancing. Loss.

Back in 2001, my father had died through a work incident. We were very close. Although he lived in the states at the time, and I lived in Canada. We talked on day to day bases, just to catch up on things. Always called my sisters and I on our birthdays. Sent presents You know, did paternal things.

His death, was very sudden. We were at school when we found out what had happened.

People always asked us; and thankfully I found this article to write about. This question: What to do when someone dies and there is no time for good-byes. There is one thing you should think about.

1. Would this person who died want you to stop everything in your life. Sit there depressed, and start living in regret.

When you read above, it'll make more sense as I continue. Sure, we all go through grief. It's something that we all go through. Give time to remember about everything you remember. Instead of sitting there crying. Always tell stories. The good, and the bad. Mostly the good. My sisters and I sat there, and cried for hours. We realized that wasn't working; only making things worse.

So we brought out the photo albums, and started from there. Going through the photos, through all the memories, telling stories Laughing, and crying. Yeah it's the end, but in a way. It's a beginning. They may not be alive in this world. However, in the other world, the person that has passed on. Is sitting there awaiting for your return.

We took time off of coarse for the memorial, planning the funeral, and getting things organized. However, we knew that our dad would of kicked our ass', if we sat there and been depressed. He would of wanted us to celebrate his life. Remember who, (as a person), he was. To continue with our lives as we would of continued too.

When we would start to get depressed or sad over our fathers death. Yes, some days I do cry. However, I am not crying because he is dead. I am crying because of everything that could have happened. The memories we had with him. Happiness soon after arrives. It's like a big warmth blanket comes over your shoulders, and keep you company It's like he was there, telling me Everything is okay. I will always be with you.

So in conclusion about point number one, is that. By sitting

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