by Denise Crisan

Created on: October 13, 2009   Last Updated: October 14, 2009

Only 7% of communication is verbal. Meaning the other 93% is nonverbal. So your body language is speaking a lot.

Most women are unaware of the messages they're sending to men. Knowing what you're physically communicating will help you show interest and send the type of signals that men feel comfortable responding to.

Do you communicate "Stay Away"

When you're out, do you naturally cross your arms or hunch your shoulders? Do you stiffen your posture or turn away when you see a cute guy? When you're out, are you overly attentive to your girlfriends and find yourself engaging in intense conversation with them? You may be interested in meeting someone, but your body language is letting off a different signal, such as stay away or I'm not interested. And men aren't likely to approach you. Women are often surprised to hear that they're doing this especially when they think they're really open to meeting people.

Women with this stay away attitude may not be ready for a relationship, or they may be nervous in social situations. As a defense mechanism they're communicating that they don't want to be approached as a way to avoid the dating process.

Do you Communicate Easy Lay?

Although this doesn't imply that you actually are an easy lay. You may be sending signals that suggest otherwise. Do you touch a guy's arm or leg when you're chatting with him? Talking about sex, having lots of physical contact with a person you just met, and getting drunk all communicate that I'm open for business. You may want to go out, have fun and meet new people. But all of the bending over and crotch watching won't help you find a satisfying relationship. Signature behaviors of easy lay body language include:

Looking him up and down Crotch watching showing lots of cleavage Bending over to show off the junk in your trunk Touching a guy holding his hand, putting your hand on his thigh, touching his face, backing up into him. Drinking beyond the recommended two drink maximum

A major no-no is the drunken "I'm looking for some loving" signal. When consuming alcohol, I would recommend a two drink maximum. If you decide to meet men at bars and clubs, remember to control how much you drink. Many women can drink four Cosmos in an evening, but it's not necessary you can certainly get a buzz from two drinks. You don't want to get drunk, because while intoxicated your more likely to make stupid choices and making yourself vulnerable to potentially dangerous situations. For example you don't want to

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