by Robert A. Mclean

Created on: October 12, 2009

There are times early on in a relationship when illusion is the playground for emotion. These are times when the roller-coaster ride of emotion reaches dizzying heights, it is addictive, and the chemicals your illusion releases in your brain makes you desire more. So it continues, daydreams, fantasies, all around the new person in your life. You begin to view everyday events through a filter where whatever that person may say is spun around to let you hear what you want to hear. During this time you may have trouble believing and realizing that he may not be that into you. Infatuation, that tragic romantic affliction, is very dangerous.

You need to occasionally put the brakes on that roller coaster and step off into reality. Sure, there are times when the other person may be on that roller-coaster ride with you and with luck, over time, those grand illusions, those exhilarating romantic imaginings, just may descend into reality, but here is the tough part, most of the time they don't. It is time to live in your heart and not in your head.

In reality, a man will let you know if he is interested, be honest with yourself if it appears he is not. If he does not call for a number of days when he said he would, if he does not clue in to something you told him was important to you, if there is a lack of consideration on his part, then face it and do not get back on the roller-coaster.

Occasionally a man may go at half speed for a number of reasons. He may be overly cautious, he may wish to know if you are where he is before he becomes more involved. This could be misunderstood as, he is just not that into me. He very well may be, but just not to the point you are. Communication can go a long way towards attaining some peace of mind. There is nothing wrong with having a talk and laying it on the table. Certainly actions speak louder than words, but you may need to hear it for confirmation of your judgement of the situation.

Usually when a woman has difficulty determining if a man is as interested as she is, it is because she is living in her head. Her heart knows, but there are times reality is hard to face. The best option is face it as early as you can and not continue the illusionary love-affair that has been constructed in your mind. Face the music, turn it up and look for your next dance.

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