by Jami Wright

Created on: October 11, 2009

A first date is your chance to make an impression. Whether that impression is good, bad, or indifferent is really up to you. You need to find the right balance in you that says; I am a fun, outgoing, positive, person and the farthest thing from overbearing, dominating, negative girl that attracts drama as you can get. Start by showing him you are fun and interesting. Many times a first date is uncomfortable because you don't know what to talk about, you need to get to know each other. Intrigue him by asking fun questions that are sure to get the conversation going.

Instead of asking him his birthday, ask him what sign he is. Even people who don't believe in Astrology know their sign. This will give you an idea of how open he is to alternative thinking. If he doesn't know his sign than you can smply ask his birthday (but where is the fun in that).

Instead of asking him what his favorite movie is, try a different spin on this question. Ask him who his favorite movie star (celebrity) is. Or 'who which celebrity would he most like to meet. Ask him if he knows of any celebrities from his home town. This question will tell you where he is from, what genere he enjoys most, and if he keeps up on the local gossip/news/current events in his hometown.

Ask him what his favorite holiday is. This can lead into many different types of conversations. You can find out what his childhood was like, you can discover if he likes holidays that you get gifts or if he likes the holidays that you get time off from work.

Ask him what his favorite season is. If he enjoys winter, he could enjoy winter sports like skiing or perhaps he is an inside type of guy who likes to stay home and winter gives him a good excuse for that. If he enjoys summer, it is probably because he love the outdoors and doing fun in the sun activities. Discovering his favorite season will give you more insight into what past times he likes.

Instead of asking if he likes to be romantic (something all women desire in a man) try asking an open ended question like; what was the most romantic thing you have ever done. If he can't give you an answer you may be in trouble.

Most of these FUN questions are spin offs of the old everyday questions. The biggest difference is that they are more open ended and require you and your partner to participate in the conversation. These are not intrusive questions which will keep everyone at ease and avoid making your date feel like he is being interrogated. Best of all, these questions make you stand out. They are not the typical questions that twenty other women have asked him before. This will hook his interest and if you both are a good match for each other get you that second date.

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