by Carmel Brulez

Created on: October 11, 2009

Online dating sites are a fantastic opportunity to chat to and maybe meet up with potential friends or lovers. They are especially popular, or even necessary, for those who are stuck at home or in their office a lot of the time and find it hard to go out and meet people in other ways. If people are housebound, disabled, looking after children or do not have a car it is a wonderful opportunity to get to know someone first before bothering to step outside your own front door to meet them face to face. But, can you trust the people you chat to on them?

People are people. There are caring ones, honest ones, liars, users, con artists, thieves, rapists everywhere. You cannot trust that whoever you chat to on an online dating site is honest simply because they insist they are. But the same applies to meeting people anywhere. You could meet someone in a club and they may well seem to be sweet, considerate, shy and genuinely an all round good guy, but that does not mean that they are what they claim to be. Really, the only advantage to meeting them face to face somewhere is that you get a good idea immediately of their age and what they actually look like in the flesh. Everything else they tell you about them might be fabricated or they may leave out vital details.

Let us say you meet this gorgeous potential lover in a club and they claim to be 30 years old and tell you they are looking. Great. You can see they are not lying about their age, you see they are attractive, there is a chemistry there. But maybe they left out that they are married or seeing someone. Or that they are only in town for a few days and just hoping for a one night stand before they go back to where they live. Now if they had been honest about that that would be a different story would it not?

At least when you chat to someone through an online dating agency you can ask them their location, job and many other things which you consider to be important and they know they have to give believable answers before there is any chance of meeting at all. They also will not bother to go through such a process where they have to chat to you on a regular basis before there is a meet, just to try to get a one night stand. It simply is not worth all of the time and effort involved.

The person you chat to on the computer might send you a photo which is 20 years old and makes them look 20 years younger. They might send you a photo of a model instead of the one that shows they are cross eyed and bow legged. But

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